The pain could stem from not being relaxed enough. However the golden rules before putting anything into the anus are
- that you have to be relaxed,
- that you go very slowly indeed as the area is very delicate,
- that you use plenty of lubricant. We suggest Bioglide
- that if you use a toy it is specially made for the purpose and is small and neat. See our Anal Gem for starters
As you say your boyfriend is experiencing pain and you should get him to have a check up with his GP first and foremost to make sure there is nothing wrong with him.
If you get the all clear then I suggest you start with rimming; which is licking and/or teasing and stimulating with a finger or toy the rim of the anus outside first. Soft vibrators are great for this with plenty of lubricant. If he is sufficiently relaxing and enjoying it you could try inserting the finger/toy into the entrance first only about 1/2" or 2-3 cms. Progress very slowly so that this is pleasurable not painful. Let me know how you get on.
Mary Clegg |