What is it? How can it help my relationship? What can it do for me? It is focusing on sensations which arise when you or your partner gently explore and caress either your own or your partner's body.
How can it help my relationship?
By exploring your own and then your partner's body you will be aware of what stimulations you like and how you react to them and how your partner's touch and stimulation affect you. In turn you will see how it affects them and together you can progress to mutual caressing all over your body to achieve a more satisfying love life.
What can it do for me?
If you know your own body; how it feels; whether the skin is soft or rough, whether it is moist or dry. Whether it is smooth or wrinkled. Whether is it cold or hot. Whether touching here is good or there is not quite so nice. Whether you like hard or soft pressure. Whether you wish to be tickled or stroked, you will be able to communicate this to your lover. It is only by knowing yourself that you can possibly hope to communicate to your partner what you want. They are not mind readers and they do not know unless you tell them!!
- Choose a time when no one is in and you have about an hour to yourself
- Make sure that your bedroom and bathroom are warm
- Undress slowly using imagination to let your mind think you are getting ready for a lover
- Feel the clothes slipping off you and feel the change in the air temperature
- Stand in front of a mirror
At first you may have a feeling of embarrassment. Imagine you are seeing yourself in the freshness of youth, as you were at 18. You may never have looked at yourself this way. Instead of the usual I am too fat, too thin, too old, too wrinkly, no one can love me in this shape etc, focus on the good points!
I am tall, I have lovely hair, I have good legs, my skin looks good, my eyes sparkle. We all feel at one time or another that we want to change ourselves but this exercise is aimed at getting us to accept ourselves as we are. We are loved by our partners, our mother, father, children, friends for who we are not what we look like.
Look at the God or Goddess within you!
Run a warm bath (or hot shower if you prefer)
Use a good soapy bubble bath or shower gel. Get in and slowly work your way around your body feeling all the sensations of the heat of the water, the feel of the bath suds, the stroking of your hands. As you relax - tickle yourself. As you relax - stroke with your fingertips. As you relax - move your toes up and down your legs very slowly. All the time focus on what it feels like. Finally slowly caress your genital area, the obvious erogenous zones of the nipples, belly, back of the neck and inner thighs. You may feel tingly feelings, you may feel hot and you may feel very aroused. Importantly go with the flow and enjoy all the sensations.
Finally wrap yourself in a warm dressing gown or warm bedclothes and take a nap or go to bed for the night. Remember how you felt. Remember in your mind the feelings. During the next few days remember what the sensations were like. If you found it arousing remember how it felt. Building in this way builds arousal and desire so that when you next see your loved one you are partially aroused already and you can go onto the next stage…..
Watch this space!!
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